Coaching grounded in nervous-system science and the daily texture of life with a neurodivergent kid. We trade reward charts and consequences for co-regulation and build, slowly, a household where your child has enough capacity to be themselves.
If you've found this page, you've probably already lived a longer version of the story than most parenting advice imagines. You've tried the strategies that work for other people's kids and watched them backfire. You've sat through evaluations and IEP meetings and well-meaning suggestions, and you've come home and realized that something about how your child is wired isn't accounted for in any of it.
Parent coaching, the way I do it, starts from a different place. Not “how do we get this child to comply?” but “what is this child's nervous system telling us, and what does the home around them need to look like for them to settle?” Behavior, in this lens, isn't a moral problem or a motivational one. It's a signal of state. Meltdowns, shutdowns, refusals, the exhaustion that takes the whole afternoon to come down from, these are the tip of the iceberg, and what's underneath is where we work.
Most of the work, in the end, is on the environment around your child and the relationship between you. Together we audit the home, the daily rhythms, the language patterns, and the demands that have crept into your day without anyone choosing them. We trade reward charts and consequences for co-regulation — your nervous system, steady, as the anchor your child can borrow. We slow down. We listen to the signal underneath the behavior. And we build, slowly, a household where your child has enough capacity to be themselves.
What looks like defiance, manipulation, laziness, or “attitude” is almost always something else underneath. Together we get good at reading what. Kids do well when they can and when they can't, that's the data.
Sensory load, demand load, transitions, the rhythm of the household. The small frictions that compound by 6 p.m. without anyone noticing. We name them and decide which to remove.
A dysregulated parent cannot regulate a dysregulated child. We work on what keeps you a calm anchor, your activation patterns, your triggers, the practices that help, and what to do when you're not. For parents who are themselves neurodivergent, there are extra layers; as an AuDHD adult, I understand them from the inside.
Less commanding, less correcting, more observing and inviting. Kids feel hierarchy in tone before they hear the words.
Repair before lesson. Relationship before strategy. The skills land in proportion to the trust underneath.
Coaching includes the language to use with schools, extended family, and clinicians, so accommodations land as the supports they are, not as parenting failures.
Including being honest about therapies, programs, or accommodations that look good on paper but cost more than they give. We name them. We decide together what to keep.
I work with every kind of differently wired kid, whatever the label or none at all. The work doesn't fragment by profile. What guides each conversation is the child in front of me, not the label, not a protocol, not a script.
Most families start with a focused foundation and then settle into whatever cadence fits — frequent at first, lighter over time, with the door open in either direction.
Concrete, focused, and intensive enough to make a real shift in how you understand your child, your home, and your own role in the dynamic. Most families need this baseline before additional sessions land well.
Come back for a single session when something specific comes up, or stay in regular contact for months or years.
Either works. Many families prefer virtual because of how the energy at home shifts on any given day.
Individual parents, couples together, or whichever combination makes sense. One parent often arrives at a new understanding before the other; that's a normal place to start.
Literacy support, school advocacy, or the move to homeschooling, when those become part of the picture.
It is a guided rebuild of how your family operates — alongside someone who's done this work professionally, lived it personally, and understands both sides.
The first conversation is free, and there's no pressure to decide anything during it. Tell me a little about what's been happening at home, and we'll see whether this fits.
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